I realized at every corner there is a person in need and within it an opportunity to share God's love. I have known a man in my industry for over 15 years. He has been a wonderful inspiration to me. He is a loyal husband and always had kind things to say about his children, as a matter of fact, they were his stepchildren, but you would have never known it.
Yesterday, I was frustrated with my offices, my partner and I guess life in general. I thought I would take a trip 20 minutes away and see if the doctor was in. To my surprise, I saw my friend but he looked different. I asked him, "How are you." It was like a flood gate. We walked outside and for 30 minutes he talked about his marriage and how his wife had filed for divorce. The divorce came because their counselor told her they were done. I wanted to laugh inside because I'm not sure Christ is done.
I listened and then I spoke. I think it's important to let people tell you how they are feeling and to help them realize that man is not in control of their destiny but they are. This marriage is very broken and was before it began. But the amazing thing is God wants to heal it. He wants to heal Him and her. He wants them to know Him and love Him. He wants this man and woman to be together. There's a reason our marriage vows say, for better or for worse. Worse is horrible! But even in the worst situations, if two people get on their knees, He can heal them and bring them together as one. It's not sex that unites us and it's definitely not feelings; it's the Holy Spirit. We play a serious part in it too because we have to bend our will, our desires and our hearts toward Jesus Christ. He's waiting.
You may be asking how I know that Christ can heal an extremely broken marriage. Simple, I was in one and in 2000 I divorced my husband of almost 10 years and began a new life. It was through those days and months, walking away from Him, that I learned He never leaves us and His desire is that man and woman would stay together. It's much too easy to get a divorce today. As a matter of fact, unless there is abuse, I think the courts should make the period at least a year before anyone can get divorced. It would have saved Mark and I a lot of money and probably a lot of heartache.
If you are in a situation where divorce is at the forefront of your mind, please get on your knees. It's not easy being divorced, especially if there are children involved. Your marriage can be healed but both of you have to want to put it together. It didn't get bad overnight and it won't be healed that quickly either. But if your willing to bow down to your own needs and desires, God will work miracles. He did with me and I am so grateful for it.
1 Corinthians 7:10 NKJV:
Now to the married I command, yet not I but the Lord: A wife is not to depart from her husband. But even if she does depart, let her remain unmarried or be reconciled with her husband. And a husband is not to divorce his wife.
Huge words to swallow I know. Don't read into this if you're being abused. I realize that God can free us from relationships that are toxic. However, this Scripture stands on it's own. Staying married is not easy, especially when you see good marriages. The key to having a strong marriage is to have God in the middle, so if you're not married yet, please don't marry an unsaved person! But if you're married, realize that you made a covenant with the Lord. Get on your knees and pray. Praying and fasting will be the only way to become one again. It's worth saving a generation from heartache. If you need prayer partners send me an email and I will pray with you! I know what it's like to fall on my face and wish that God would change my marriage. And every day I realize He is. Give it a chance, die to yourself and pray that God would heal what He brought together!
My prayer today:
God I come before you a woman that wants women to unite in marriage. The world is putting every kind of distraction it can toward marriage. If one marriage breaks, many generations fall. I am asking you as a servant, to help women and men across the world find you and believe that you can and will heal their marriages. You are the mighty power behind the first man and woman and I know from experience, if I bow to your will, you will heal me and my circumstances. It might take time but you are forever with me. Please help all women to see you in the middle of their marriages and bring all of us to our knees for the sake of our husbands, our children, ourselves. You are my Father, my husband, my love. Thank you for being in the middle of all things and especially, for helping me with my marriage and my children. In Jesus name, AMEN